RDMA: Add rdma_connect_locked()

There are two flows for handling RDMA_CM_EVENT_ROUTE_RESOLVED, either the
handler triggers a completion and another thread does rdma_connect() or
the handler directly calls rdma_connect().

In all cases rdma_connect() needs to hold the handler_mutex, but when
handler's are invoked this is already held by the core code. This causes
ULPs using the 2nd method to deadlock.

Provide a rdma_connect_locked() and have all ULPs call it from their
handlers.

Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/0-v2-53c22d5c1405+33-rdma_connect_locking_jgg@nvidia.com


Reported-and-tested-by: Guoqing Jiang <guoqing.jiang@cloud.ionos.com>
Fixes: 2a7cec53 ("RDMA/cma: Fix locking for the RDMA_CM_CONNECT state")
Acked-by: Santosh Shilimkar <santosh.shilimkar@oracle.com>
Acked-by: Jack Wang <jinpu.wang@cloud.ionos.com>
Reviewed-by: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>
Reviewed-by: Max Gurtovoy <mgurtovoy@nvidia.com>
Reviewed-by: Sagi Grimberg <sagi@grimberg.me>
Signed-off-by: Jason Gunthorpe <jgg@nvidia.com>