xprtrdma: Use smaller buffers for RPC-over-RDMA headers

Commit 94931746 ("xprtrdma: Limit number of RDMA segments in
RPC-over-RDMA headers") capped the number of chunks that may appear
in RPC-over-RDMA headers. The maximum header size can be estimated
and fixed to avoid allocating buffer space that is never used.

Signed-off-by: Chuck Lever <chuck.lever@oracle.com>
Signed-off-by: Anna Schumaker <Anna.Schumaker@Netapp.com>