KVM: x86/mmu: Add helpers to read/write TDP MMU SPTEs and document RCU

Add helpers to read and write TDP MMU SPTEs instead of open coding
rcu_dereference() all over the place, and to provide a convenient
location to document why KVM doesn't exempt holding mmu_lock for write
from having to hold RCU (and any future changes to the rules).

No functional change intended.

Signed-off-by: Sean Christopherson <seanjc@google.com>
Reviewed-by: Ben Gardon <bgardon@google.com>
Message-Id: <20220226001546.360188-11-seanjc@google.com>
Reviewed-by: Mingwei Zhang <mizhang@google.com>
Signed-off-by: Paolo Bonzini <pbonzini@redhat.com>