RDS: destroy the ib state earlier during shutdown

Destroy ib state early during shutdown. Otherwise we can get callbacks
after the QP isn't really able to handle them.

Reviewed-by: Ajaykumar Hotchandani <ajaykumar.hotchandani@oracle.com>
Signed-off-by: Santosh Shilimkar <ssantosh@kernel.org>
Signed-off-by: Santosh Shilimkar <santosh.shilimkar@oracle.com>
Signed-off-by: David S. Miller <davem@davemloft.net>