bpf: sockmap: Merge sockmap and sockhash update functions

Merge the two very similar functions sock_map_update_elem and
sock_hash_update_elem into one.

Signed-off-by: Lorenz Bauer <lmb@cloudflare.com>
Signed-off-by: Alexei Starovoitov <ast@kernel.org>
Acked-by: John Fastabend <john.fastabend@gmail.com>
Acked-by: Yonghong Song <yhs@fb.com>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/bpf/20200821102948.21918-3-lmb@cloudflare.com