SUNRPC: Generalize the RPC buffer allocation API

xprtrdma needs to allocate the Call and Reply buffers separately.
TBH, the reliance on using a single buffer for the pair of XDR
buffers is transport implementation-specific.

Transports that want to allocate separate Call and Reply buffers
will ignore the "size" argument anyway.  Don't bother passing it.

The buf_alloc method can't return two pointers. Instead, make the
method's return value an error code, and set the rq_buffer pointer
in the method itself.

This gives call_allocate an opportunity to terminate an RPC instead
of looping forever when a permanent problem occurs. If a request is
just bogus, or the transport is in a state where it can't allocate
resources for any request, there needs to be a way to kill the RPC
right there and not loop.

This immediately fixes a rare problem in the backchannel send path,
which loops if the server happens to send a CB request whose
call+reply size is larger than a page (which it shouldn't do yet).

One more issue: looks like xprt_inject_disconnect was incorrectly
placed in the failure path in call_allocate. It needs to be in the
success path, as it is for other call-sites.

Signed-off-by: Chuck Lever <chuck.lever@oracle.com>
Signed-off-by: Anna Schumaker <Anna.Schumaker@Netapp.com>