fs: dlm: don't use deprecated timeout features by default

This patch will disable use of deprecated timeout features if
CONFIG_DLM_DEPRECATED_API is not set.  The deprecated features
will be removed in upcoming kernel release v6.2.

Signed-off-by: Alexander Aring <aahringo@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: David Teigland <teigland@redhat.com>