xprtrdma: Remove rpcrdma_ia::ri_flags

Clean up:
The upper layer serializes calls to xprt_rdma_close, so there is no
need for an atomic bit operation, saving 8 bytes in rpcrdma_ia.

This enables merging rpcrdma_ia_remove directly into the disconnect
logic.

Signed-off-by: Chuck Lever <chuck.lever@oracle.com>
Signed-off-by: Anna Schumaker <Anna.Schumaker@Netapp.com>