libceph: fix mutex coverage for ceph_con_close

Hold the mutex while twiddling all of the state bits to avoid possible
races.  While we're here, make not of why we cannot close the socket
directly.

Signed-off-by: Sage Weil <sage@inktank.com>
Reviewed-by: Alex Elder <elder@inktank.com>
Reviewed-by: Yehuda Sadeh <yehuda@inktank.com>