drm/i915: Drop the deferred active reference

An old optimisation to reduce the number of atomics per batch sadly
relies on struct_mutex for coordination. In order to remove struct_mutex
from serialising object/context closing, always taking and releasing an
active reference on first use / last use greatly simplifies the locking.

Signed-off-by: Chris Wilson <chris@chris-wilson.co.uk>
Reviewed-by: Matthew Auld <matthew.auld@intel.com>
Link: https://patchwork.freedesktop.org/patch/msgid/20190528092956.14910-15-chris@chris-wilson.co.uk