media: v4l2-ctrls: support g/s_ext_ctrls for requests

The v4l2_g/s_ext_ctrls functions now support control handlers that
represent requests.

The v4l2_ctrls_find_req_obj() function is responsible for finding the
request from the fd.

Signed-off-by: Hans Verkuil <hans.verkuil@cisco.com>
Reviewed-by: Mauro Carvalho Chehab <mchehab+samsung@kernel.org>
Signed-off-by: Mauro Carvalho Chehab <mchehab+samsung@kernel.org>