net/smc: Add global configure for handshake limitation by netlink

Although we can control SMC handshake limitation through socket options,
which means that applications who need it must modify their code. It's
quite troublesome for many existing applications. This patch modifies
the global default value of SMC handshake limitation through netlink,
providing a way to put constraint on handshake without modifies any code
for applications.

Suggested-by: Tony Lu <tonylu@linux.alibaba.com>
Signed-off-by: D. Wythe <alibuda@linux.alibaba.com>
Reviewed-by: Tony Lu <tonylu@linux.alibaba.com>
Signed-off-by: David S. Miller <davem@davemloft.net>