IB/mlx5: Fix the locking of SRQ objects in ODP events

QP and SRQ objects are stored in different containers so the action to get
and lock a common resource during ODP event needs to address that.

While here get rid of 'refcount' and 'free' fields in mlx5_core_srq struct
and use the fields with same semantics in common structure.

Fixes: 032080ab ("IB/mlx5: Lock QP during page fault handling")
Signed-off-by: Moni Shoua <monis@mellanox.com>
Reviewed-by: Majd Dibbiny <majd@mellanox.com>
Signed-off-by: Leon Romanovsky <leonro@mellanox.com>
Signed-off-by: Jason Gunthorpe <jgg@mellanox.com>