[SCSI] Add target alloc/destroy callbacks to the host template

This gives the HBA driver notice when a target is created and
destroyed to allow it to manage its own target based allocations
accordingly.

This is a much reduced verson of the original patch sent in by
James.Smart@Emulex.com

Signed-off-by: James Bottomley <James.Bottomley@SteelEye.com>