KVM: add vm refcounting

the main purpose of adding this functions is the abilaty to release the
spinlock that protect the kvm list while still be able to do operations
on a specific kvm in a safe way.

Signed-off-by: Izik Eidus <izike@qumranet.com>
Signed-off-by: Avi Kivity <avi@qumranet.com>